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After the recent tragedies regarding bullying, Madonna is speaking out about her own experience. Watch some of the highlights here.
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I am speaking up about the im[ortance of the film you mentioned about "Bullying>" And the need for the flms rating to be droped from "R" to "PG". I am ALL for the films rating to be dropped. It should be required viewing for everybody, from elementy school, middle school and high school, but required viewing for all adults as well. I couldn't find the petition to sign, so I hope you'll be able to add my support from this. You go girl!!
Lisa Smith Rogers
Dear Ellen;;;I am home schooled because of bullying;;BUT AN 10 YEAR OLD GIRL HAS HUNG HERSELF BECAUSE SHE WAS BULLY AT SCHOOL;;WHEN WILL THIS STOP;;MY HEART IS FULL OF SADNESS FOR THE FAMILY BUT I AM ONLY 11 AND CAN NOT UNDERSTAND HOW THIS COULD HAPPEN;;I AM FROM CHADBOURN N.C.;;IT IS ON WECT NEWS IN N.C.;;PLEASE KEEP THIS FAMILY IN PRAYER;;;
As a child I was bullied, but not as bad as some others and my children, who are now grown, were bullied. A teacher wasn't around when I was bullied but sometimes teachers were there when my children were bullied. It was horrible. I just wanted to say, I'm for anything that can help these children in school. With the non parenting issues now days I don't know how the kids function at all. Some have to face worse at home, as well.
Often bullies are bullied into becoming bullies. So they turn on others.
This is much like sexual abuse. Those who have experienced it can become abusive toward others.
If bad tendencies are not corrected, they can repeat themselves.
The answer?
Films songs, and TV shows can be made that focus on this fact -- featuring important role models. And they should focus not only on how kids act, but on how adults act in these situations.
How we act is important -- and how bullies/abusers become this way must be exposed.
But we must be careful not to spend too much time depicting the bullying behavior, because this too can cause others to repeat it. After all, most of what we learn in life, we learn by watching.
Instead show how bullying/abuse begins, in very simple ways - and how when we see these tendencies, they can be dealt with immediately, and not allowed to go on to the point where they are entrenched in someone's behavior.
Often we ignore signs that are telling us something's wrong.
So let's stop throwing up our hands at adolescent and teenage behavior, as if there's nothing we can do to keep our children close to us, and communicating what they're going through.
Let's stop staying "well boys will be boys" -- or "girls will be girls" -- and realize boys and girls will "be" what WE encourage them to be.
And remember, peer pressure doesn't stop when we turn 20! It goes on all through life.
So we can wake up and take charge of our homes, our children, our schools, our media -- our lives -- and tell and show why this "preying on others" tendency is inadmissable!
It comes down to personal respect for ourselves and then for others -- and this can & should be taught in the home.
But TV/films/music are vibrant educators, so they must focus on solving this problem.
Ellen's stand-up humor is so pro-active in this regard -- poking fun at the human condition we all share. Her humor encourages us to feel we're "not alone" in our small, life-stressing issues, that can become big issues if we don't let them go.
And humor is such a great way to let them go!
There's a huge difference between laughing AT others versus laughing WITH others.
Often bullies are bullied into becoming bullies. So they turn on others.
This is much like sexual abuse. Those who have experienced it can become abusive toward others.
If bad tendencies are not corrected, they can repeat themselves.
The answer?
Films songs, and TV shows can be made that focus on this fact -- featuring important role models. And they should focus not only on how kids act, but on how adults act in these situations.
How we act is important -- and how bullies/abusers become this way must be exposed.
But we must be careful not to spend too much time depicting the bullying behavior, because this too can cause others to repeat it. After all, most of what we learn in life, we learn by watching.
Instead show how bullying/abuse begins, in very simple ways - and how when we see these tendencies, they can be dealt with immediately, and not allowed to go on to the point where they are entrenched in someone's behavior.
Often we ignore signs that are telling us something's wrong.
So let's stop throwing up our hands at adolescent and teenage behavior, as if there's nothing we can do to keep our children close to us, and communicating what they're going through.
Let's stop staying "well boys will be boys" -- or "girls will be girls" -- and realize boys and girls will "be" what WE encourage them to be.
And remember, peer pressure doesn't stop when we turn 20! It goes on all through life.
So we can wake up and take charge of our homes, our children, our schools, our media -- our lives -- and tell and show why this "preying on others" tendency is inadmissable!
It comes down to personal respect for ourselves and then for others -- and this can & should be taught in the home.
But TV/films/music are vibrant educators, so they must focus on solving this problem.
Ellen's stand-up humor is so pro-active in this regard -- poking fun at the human condition we all share. Her humor encourages us to feel we're "not alone" in our small, life-stressing issues, that can become big issues if we don't let them go.
And humor is such a great way to let them go!
There's a huge difference between laughing AT others versus laughing WITH others.
i was bullied when i was a little girl, i got myself ready for school,i would have big safety pins to hold my dress to gether, one girl invited me to her birth day party just to make fun of me , i just amagine she has been made fun of by some one by now she was a very bad girl i hope she has come out of that by now,some one may have made fun of her kids, i feel sorry for the kids , but maybe she thought about how she bulled kids when she was little. ruby archer
Im 52 years old. There were people in my life that taught me things that made me a better person but they never knew this. So if we show kindness it will pay off in the long run.
This interview with Madonna proves that there needs to be an online and face to face mentorship program for 'weird/unique' kids.
I was one of them.
Being alone and feeling isolated is something that is disastrous.
As Madonna and Ellen beautifully articulated, kids need community.
If there is Big Brothers Big Sisters, there should be a mentorship and support system besides the youtube videos that have been made about 'it gets better'.
Ellen and Madonna should start a program that pairs youth with a successful adult in their desired vocation, artistic interests, music tastes.
It would be an internship/mentor program.
Kids need guidance and a little encouragement and to know that everything will be okay from someone who has been there.
I am so thrilled that everyone has started to speak out about bullying. I was a bully in school. As an adult I feel horrible for all the aweful things I ever did and said to people. I was able to do some self reflecting as an adult and I bullied people because I hated myself and my home life. I have been blessed with the oppertunity to make amends with one girl I picked on most in high school. She was kind enough to extend to me honest forgivness. We ended up working together and were more alike than anyone could ever imagine.
I guess I am just trying to say that with so many influental people speaking out about bullying that it will help to stop it. I have 2 small boys and my 3 year old is already being taught about bullying and how wrong it is. As much as I would love to take back what I did, I can only attempt to make up for it by speaking out and teaching my children to have a voice against bullying and not to be bullies themselves.
K
My son is a 13 year old Autistic who has been bullied by kids at the new school that he had to go to when we moved. I'm fortunate that a friend is a teacher there & helped me with 1 of the bullies but I know there are others...but my son refuses to tell me who they are. It's not just that he won't tell me...being Autistic...he is not as social as a normal child. I hope that when he goes back to school after the holiday break, things are better. We are already discussing moving to get back into our old school district.
I was bullied all through school, I was over weight and grew up on the (poor side of town) according to alot of kids. There were seven of us and our parents both worked, but didn't make all that good of money. You mentioned that the bullies end up loosers, boy do I have a story for you.The son of a well known police officer in our town was the bully, he would walk behind me in school and kick me in the butt and taughnt me for being over weight, one day I had enough and I threw him down a flight of steps at school. He then would run and make remarks everytime he saw me after that knowing I would kick his butt, if he touched me..he grew up to be a dopehead and in jail..I grew up, with little self esteem and yes it is lonely..there were others (bully's) in elementary school, junior high and high school. I was marked as a druggy even though I was the one who never did the drugs they did.I quit school as soon as I turned 16 to get away from this stuff. I took Judo in college later in life and my self esteem rose and I now work at a successful career and I taught my children not to be afraid of anyone. Oh, they were bullied by their father, to the point of disaster for my oldest son..both he and his younger brother have bad nerves and shake really bad..I could go on for days, but I say if the bully don't stop, give him/her what they deserve a good butt woopen..
Morning Ellen,
About all this bullying,I was bullied,I think from birth.My Father,packed up & left my Mother,the day before I got out of the hospital in Victoria, British Columbia.After that situation,we moved to Calgary,where I now live.I grew up in a neighborhood,called Victoria Park.My school was a block away,an everyday I had to run home.The little white kids,used to take my belts my Momma made for my outfits.Then try and choke me with it,an would beat me up.Needless to say,I learned to run very fast,an ended up in track and field.A WINNER!!!
Bullying is wrong. We have no right to judge. I do not agree with homosexuality, I think it is wrong. I will not allow my kids though to bully other kids based on how they look or act. I ask them if that is the way CHRIST would treat someone. I also tell them that they do not know that kids home life. The kid may need someone just to be their friend when no one else will be. Love is the only thing that will change the world, not shoving religion down peoples throats. Our family loves JESUS and we love to help out those around us.That is how you change the world. On person at a time.
ellen, i'm 59 yrs. old but i remember being bullied and picked on as a child, the worst memory was caused by a teacher,my dad drove a grader for the county and got pd. 1x a mth. so we charged our lunches, with 6 kids sometimes they could'nt even pay that often.anyway every morning the teacher would ask each student about their lunch, whether pd. brought it etc. i went to class as usual and my name and my twin sisters was on the board. she asked about lunch and of course i said charge,she told me in no uncertain words "do you see your name" i said yes she said that means no more chgs. of course all the kids laughed and did'nt let it go for days, until they could find a new subject.it's sad when the teachers participate in this but they do. i'll never forget the humiliation, and this was only 1 incident.
Kids have been bullied for years. Thin, fat,non- athletic, etc...no one is standing up for those kids. The kids are lonely. No matter what---we adults have to stand with the children- empower them to be themselves. DO what is their passion. BUT the CHOICE is ALWAYS LIFE! But LIVE! LIVE! Find your niche!
I saw Madonna in a way I have never seen before, and I have to say I appreciated her opening up. I was bullied all my life, and in school I was called "Circus Lady", among other things. I am 58 years old, and I still remember it as yesterday. I am still big, and have worked hard all my life. Now I have custody of my 12 year old grand-daughter, that has went through a harsh childhood with her mother. Finally, I got custody of her, and she has gained weight do to no friends, no exercise. She will not even walk in front of the class to pay her lunch money, my husband takes it in. Even though the teachers love her, they don't see everything. They don't tolerate bullying. It tears me up inside, to know that she is going through what I went through. I can't walk very far, so walking with her is out. But I will say this, it has got so bad to her self esteem, she will not go shopping, never, doesn't want to leave the house. We have her in counciling, and she is very happy here. But I am hurting for her. She has no one to come over, or she never gets asked over. She is in Kids Hope. I have another grand-daughter, age 12, that is in all kinds of sports, very petite, but my son and his wife don't ask J---- to go anywhere, and I think it is because of her weight. They say they ask her, but she won't go. I am crying my eyes out, because I don't know what to do. My grand-daughter is so scared of doing something wrong, she will not walk in front of the class, and this year, she has straight A+'s in citizenship. I am sorry this is so long, but I am lost, hurt, mad, and feel guilty. Thanks Ellen and Madonna for opening people's eyes. When you have been bullied, they are already open! God Bless!
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