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Hi,Ellen I WORK at palmetto health hospital,and I HAVE ,Three grandchildrens, and every year since my mother died I,have christmas dinner at my house for my two sisters and my brother ,my son neices and nephrews,but this year my heart is so sad, because Ihave so much bills ,that I can t buy them a anything,and I need help ,Im trying to keep my house but its hard,Ibeen working for 18yr, trying to have something,but Icant even treat myself to a birthday gift,and my birthday is five days before christmas.thank you for listing to me .Iwatch your show
Hi Ellen,
First, I have to say that I absolutely love love your show! I can be having the worst of days, but after an hour of watching the show, I end up with a smile on my face. I am even dancing around with my two dachshunds, and ragdoll. This is not the toy ragdoll, but my cat, Lulu.
I am emailing you because of my mom and dad. They are both retired, but have really never experienced the "empty nest" syndrome. My brother moved back home to live with my parents after his divorce, losing his job, and the loss of our brother in 2000. He had expensive medical bills right now. He just had back surgery. He works, but I do not know when he will be back on his feet.
In the meantime, mom and dad are carrying the load, and their retirement is almost gone, and money is tight. Because Randy does not have much, mom and dad are having to buy Christmas for his three kids, and their great graddaughter. My grandaughter, Jillian is five, and her mom cannot even buy her anything for the holidays. She is going to nursing school for 12 hours a day and on loans. Mom and dad are really struggling, and when mom calls me crying, I try to stay strong,but by the time I hang up the phone, I am in tears also.
All I want for Christmas is for mom and dad to be able to give a sigh of relief and to have some calm at least for a little while.
Happy Holiday and Merry Christmas to you and Porsha
Teresa
Indianapolis
Dear Ellen,I couldnt limit my story to 1500 characters!!! soo hard, so I sent you the cut up version but this was the letter in entirety.
In a very strugglesome time in my life, YOU have made me smile, laugh, and forget the worries I have, even if for just a hour a day...
My name is Janet, I am married to my best friend, and most wonderful man, Kris. He serves in the military and is the most honest and kind person you will ever meet. Last year we had our first child, a perfect baby boy, Kashton. All my dreams were becoming reality...until all at once my life flipped upside down. After having my son I was so relieved to enjoy mommyhood since my pregnancy was complicated with reoccurant blood infections and gestational diabetes. But I didnt enjoy anything, not even the things I loved before. I had migraines daily, body aches, hair loss, and much more. I was diagnosed with Hashimotos thyroditis, I had lost complete thyroid function durring my pregnancy. This led to two large lumps in my throat ( goiters), It's been 6months now and I still have not gotten my voice completely back. It breaks my heart I can't sing to my baby boy because my voice is so hoarse and rough. A couple months later I was diagnosed with Diabetes triggered by the weight I couldn't loose because of my thyroid diease. I am now on insulin and oral medications but this was not the worst part of this year for me.
It turned out my "baby blues" were not resolving, a nurse by profession I denied what I was so afraid of...I had severe post partum depression triggered by my illnesses and hormonal imbalance. My home life was miserable, I made it that way with my mood swings, and inability to function normally. Now, what complicates things is, the VERY day of my diagnosis of Hashinmoto, my dad had a massive heart attack and than two more to follow with in 6 months. I am daddy's little and only girl, and I cant define the love I have for him. So I moved home to care for my dad for a couple months, putting my health at greater risk and leaving my family. He had triple bypass and is now recovering, with a final diagnosis of congestive heart failure, end stage kidney failure and Lymphoma.
Ellen, my husband is our only income and the military doesnt pay that good. I just voluntarily turned in my car for repo, my husbands transmission just blew and is costing more to fix than it is worth. So we are borrowing cars for now. I can't work at the moment because my doctors feel I need to stablize. I miss nursing so much, it gave me a strong sense of pride and confidence. Also my school loan is keeping me from taking another loan to complete my RN program for nursing. I feel like we are at a real tough time in our lives, our one credit card is maxed out with baby formula and diapers and any cash we have goes to bills and gas. We live 100 miles away from my dad so sadly I can't see him as much as I want because gas is outrageous right now.
Through out this year we have not ever lost hope. I dont believe god gives us more than we can handle, and someone out there has it worse than we do. Everyday I watch you dance and it makes me so happy. The sincerity in you eyes is priceless, and your smile is so very contagious.You remind me it is the small moments in life that matter, the moments when we laugh and dance like no ones watching. Thank you so much for that timeless gift. I know I am going to hear from you in one way or another. I have a strong feeling I will, a phone call or a letter or something.Regardless It felt amazing to vent finally! I know you are real and so different than others. Thank you Ellen.
Many thank you's and love,
Janet Lynn Ram
My dear Ellen,I never miss your show..in a neighbor"s house or at work before, i was daydreaming how i wish i am beside you to tell my story.I came to this country from the Philippines 2 years ago, after retirement and waiting for 10 years for my petition to be approved, i had hig hopes and big dreams only to be crushed..after 8 months my sister passed away of cancer, and after 5 months my mother passed away from an accident..so i am left alone..as an orphan with 2 other sisters who came along with me.i worked as a caregiver, i liked the job although you can call me a high profile caregiver, i have a Masters Degree in Education and was a former teacher,,i like the job, but with this economy i lost it, i have exellent work recommendations,can you help me?i can do research work or i can do domestic duties,,so i can survive..help me dear Ellen, i love this country and i desire to survive..lovingly, Linda
My name is Tamla Crawford. My mom is having a tough time right now! Her husband recently lost his job this year his work place was shut down. Now she struggles to pay her bills. Recently it rained here and some water got under her hood and flooded her engine. Now she has to pay a good amount of money she doesn't have to fix this problem. She is a good mom she helps me out so much and her friends when they need it. She goes to CHURCH with her grandchildren in this car. This is how she gets around to work at night and CHURCH 3-4days a week. She has no heat in her apartment because the heating bill was so high last year so they need to use space heaters and heavy blankets to keep warm. The winter is coming and it will be very cold here in BOSTON. They have no hot water so they come to my apartment for HOT SHOWERS. I watch your show and I love you and all you do. AND THERE SHOULD HAVE BEEN OR BE A FINDING NEMO 2!!! LOVE YA TAMMY CRAWFORD
Hey Ellen!
This is Danika Espinoza. I skipped school,and came to work with my mom today to get some of my scholarship and finacial aid done for college. She must have not logged off your site before leaving to her 4th graders. What a surprise it was to me to sit down only to find that my mom had just posted a comment asking for help! Ellen, I love her soooo much and I know she and my dad worry a lot about us, and to tell you the truth..my brother and I worry too. They have done everything possible to provide for us and keep us safe,including moving us from the ghetto of LA to indiana. What she didn't tell you is why we don't have any money. In 2002, my mom was diagnosed with overian cancer. She was 26 years old. she
underwent surgery and 6months of chemo. Her hair fell out and we thought we might loose her. She pulled through and was in remission.In 2007 just when she should have celebrated that much awaited 5 year mark she was diagnosed yet again, now with cervical cancer. Again she underwent surgery. This time they they not anly removed many parts but her dream of having another child. my parents were left with lots of medical bills. I hear them talk to the collectors and beg for more time. My brother and I have jobs to help with our own costs of athletics, book fees, and even lunch money. I hate that we worry about money so much! On top of that my parents have never closed a door to anyone. They have takin in 2 family members young children, one who they legally adopted this year. So, now I have a new brother. I try not to bother them with college issues and do all I can to take care of it myself but it's hard. If there is any way you could help us I know it would mean the world to them!
Thank for making us Laugh!
Danika Espinoza
Logansport, IN
Hi Ellen,
I haven't ever tryed something like this, asking for help is not that easy for our family. we watch your show as much as we can, but with 2 teens, a husband, and a 1 yr old it gets hard to even sit down @ times. When we do, your show is something we can all laugh and enjoy together. i am writing today because my husband and myself have work very hard for the last 20 years just to put food on the table at times.We had a child at 17, were married at 18, and had another child at 19. It was hard, but we've made it dispite the odds. Now our children are 17 and 15. We have always held high expectations for them to go on to get good grades and go on to college. They have done us proud! They are both honor roll students and are now recieving invites to some of the best colleges our state has to offer. We are overwhelmed with the scholorship, finacial aid, and grant process! And now I come to find that no matter how hard the have tryed, we still might have to tell them that we can't afford to send them to the colleges of their choice. I'm heartbroken as a mom to know that my choices when I was their age, no matter how hard I've tried might be affecting them anyway. Ellen, we are hardworking people. My husband works at a hog plant and I am a teacher's assistant. Our children are involved athleticaly, get great grades, and both hold jobs themselves...but we stil don't have the means to pay 32,000 dollars a year for college. I don't want a new car,home, or any material thing out there. I just want them to know that all their hard work was not in vain, and be able to say baby you did it, now go and follow your dreams!
Can You Help?
Marlene Espinoza
Logansport, In.
hi ellen hope all is well .hello to your wife portia from me and the kids.i contacted you before i am not sure if you remeber me i wrote to you about me having 7 kids,and im a single parent i wrote about me trying to get an apartment an a needing the security deposit and on my unemployment its impossible to make it...and i wrote about how my family has been going through their share of hardship but they still have been their for me and the kids and i thought it would be so magical and special if me the kids and well and my fam can ride the polar express and have a beautiful stress free magical christmasie day..wow!!!i just felt that writing it again ..i know it would be perfect ...well god bless you ellen your wife portia ,your staff and all your families have a wonderful thanks giving .i was contacted by alice but i wasnt there ,i got so excited ..but if she doesnt call back give her my holiday blessing to.
Ellen
Im a huge fan & my daughters & I never miss your show. I think its great how u give so much in a time many are strugglin, including my family, but Im not writin today for myself. I know most that u help are women, but I'm writin about a dear family member a 34 year old who has been thru more in his 34 years than most. He was the middle child of his three brothers who were very close. In 2005 our family lost his younger brother in a tragic accident, he was only 24 with a baby on the way. We were all devistated. 2 years ago he lost his oldest brother in a tragic car accident at 33. They were both awesome, loving, brothers who are greatly missed.2 months after his last brothers death his wife left taking his kids. After havin an accident himself he wasnt able to work. He tries to stay strong but I cant imagine the pain he deals with everyday or financial burden. I hurt for him & wish I could help. My christmas wish is that he be a little less burdened. We cant take away his grief but if u could help him in any other way I would be eternally grateful! Thank you for reading this, and thanks for the laughs u bring to my home everyday.
Sincerely,
Nicole Gregory
Louisville MS
Ellen
Im a huge fan & my daughters & I never miss your show. I think its great how u give so much in a time many are strugglin, including my family, but Im not writin today for myself. I know most that u help are women, but I'm writin about a dear family member a 34 year old who has been thru more in his 34 years than most. He was the middle child of his three brothers who were very close. In 2005 our family lost his younger brother in a tragic accident, he was only 24 with a baby on the way. We were all devistated. 2 years ago he lost his oldest brother in a tragic car accident at 33. They were both awesome, loving, brothers who are greatly missed.2 months after his last brothers death his wife left taking his kids. After havin an accident himself he wasnt able to work. He tries to stay strong but I cant imagine the pain he deals with everyday or financial burden. I hurt for him & wish I could help. My christmas wish is that he be a little less burdened. We cant take away his grief but if u could help him in any other way I would be eternally grateful! Thank you for reading this, and thanks for the laughs u bring to my home everyday.
Sincerely,
Nicole Gregory
Louisville MS
Ellen
Im a huge fan & my daughters & I never miss your show. I think its great how u give so much in a time many are strugglin, including my family, but Im not writin today for myself. I know most that u help are women, but I'm writin about a dear family member a 34 year old who has been thru more in his 34 years than most. He was the middle child of his three brothers who were very close. In 2005 our family lost his younger brother in a tragic accident, he was only 24 with a baby on the way. We were all devistated. 2 years ago he lost his oldest brother in a tragic car accident at 33. They were both awesome, loving, brothers who are greatly missed.2 months after his last brothers death his wife left taking his kids. After havin an accident himself he wasnt able to work. He tries to stay strong but I cant imagine the pain he deals with everyday or financial burden. I hurt for him & wish I could help. My christmas wish is that he be a little less burdened. We cant take away his grief but if u could help him in any other way I would be eternally grateful! Thank you for reading this, and thanks for the laughs u bring to my home everyday.
Sincerely,
Nicole Gregory
Louisville MS
Dear Ellen,
I know that this is one of the most difficult times in so many peoples lives and you are doing amazing things for so many people.
I am a mother of a beautiful two year old , wife to a wonderful husband, and we are going to have a new little life in June. These past three years have knocked us down but we keep the faith. Soon after my two year old was born I was laid off, and applied everyday for 5 months. I got a job, and we thought our troubles were over, I was with the company for 4 months and then they had to downsize, and I was first to go. My husband, (my rock) works very hard, but his income can not pay our mortgage soely, as well as having to feed , cloth, and pay all of our bills alone. I was laid off for 5 more months, and we exhausted our savings, to make it by , it was difficult and I felt as if I was failing my daughter and my husband was working so hard. I got a new job about 9 months ago, and we felt we would be able to really catch up. However, for the length of time I had been out previously, we just can't catch up. To top it off my company is looking into possible job reductions, and I don't know what will come of it. As if that wasn't bad enough, I have had to go on bed rest with this pregnancy because they have found blood clots, and we have to protect my baby. We have fought so hard for both our children before my daughter was born I suffered an ectopic pregnancy and lost a tube and child. My daughter was conceived two months later , she is my miracle. When I started this new job we felt secure to try again, but we were having difficulty, we found I had a uterine polp,the size of a apricot, and had to have it removed. Even with insurance the surgery was not cheap and it had to be done, and it depleted our savings, but we conceived my second miralce seventeen days later. We have had to pay some bills late which we hate but feel that is all we can do, and we have not been able to pay off credit cards that we have used for surgery's and medical bills, because we have not been able to catch up. We have tried to reduce everything, we have tried to refinance the house but in this market as are so many we are upside down . So they won't let us modify our loan or refy. Also, since I had to have the surgery, I exhausted my sick time at work, and so with the bed rest, I am not getting paid, but I fought so hard for my babies that I can't chance it. I am so afraid that if we don't catch up or figure out a way to reduce the mortgage, especially if there are job reductions I am afraid what may happen. I feel as if I will fail my children and husband if we do lose it all. I know so many people are going through so much, and even if this story doesn't reach you, I want others to know that we are all in this together and to keep the faith.
Ellen,
Thanks for being you and giving back to such wonderful causes. These are hard times for so many now. I am a caregiver of an almost 98 year old spunky lady. My husband is probably facing certain lay-off if the economy doesn't turn around soon. We have simplified our lives over the past year in anticipation of this. However, our true need is for our son, Jon. He has a mild form of autism along with bipolar disorder. It is a gross understatement to say his life has been challenging. He excels on computers and worked successfully for 6 years at an office supply store. He is 22 years old. He was let go and was unable to find work here in Ohio. His dream has always been to be close to the ocean. He up and moved to California July 27th. He has had no permanent place to call home since. The last 3 weeks he has been living in his car. He has a part-time job at Walmart which he likes. He lives in his car in a parking lot near work. He signed up for a free membership (30 days)at a gym in order to shower. There is an up-side to this story. A wonderful couple we contacted through other friends have befriended him. They allow him to do laundry, shower and feed him at their home. They live in a very nice mobile home park but are unable to allow him to move in. He occasionally stays the night there. The manager is excellent and strict about keeping the park with a manageable number of people. This is the reason they cannot allow him to stay with them. They have already done too much. They love him and treat him as their own son and we have never met them other than to talk over the phone. Such loving, caring people they have been to us and our son. Jon needs a roof over his head. A place to call home as he loves it there in California. Job prospects are poor here in Ohio. Would it be possible to find an affordable room or apartment there for him? His job is between West Covina and Southern LA. We love Jon and wish that we could help more. Also, the couple - Jack and Irma deserve eternal hugs and kisses for the love they have so unselfishly poured out on our son. We love them so much. I wish we could do something special for them. Could you possibly help this couple and our son find a place for him to stay? We would all be so VERY grateful for any help you could offer or suggest. We hope one day to meet them and express our appreciation for their care and concern for our son. There are still good and loving people in this world. Blessings and love to you. Carrie
HI Ellen, My family loves your show and YOU ARE THE BEST!!. My name is Tamla and I live in WALTHAM ,MASSACHUSETTS . My husband and I have been going through some tough times. I have been out of work since August because I was pregnant with our third child.and having problems with my blood pressure. My husband does his best support us but with his job he sometimes only works 1-2 days a week. I dont know about you but having to take care of 5 people on a 2 day paycheck is hard work.He hasn't worked a 5 day work week in a while."He also tries to pick up little jobs to make a little more money .He has been looking for a second job with no luck. So I'm trying to go back to work but the hours are not there. I'm a prescool teacher at a daycare and we dont have enough children for me to come back for more than 4 hours a week right now . We are a few months behind for rent and our car payment and other bill. We only have 1 car so my husband uses it to go to work and I have to ask my mom or stepdad for a ride wherever I have to go and sometimes they have watch the kids when I have appointments. My mom and stepdad help us out when they can. My 2 older children had their birthdays 2 weeks after I had the baby and we could only afford 1 toy each for their birthdays and we haven't been able to get much for the baby but clothes..Christmas and my birthday are next so hopefully SANTA will stop by our apartment this year. If we still have it.LOLL It would be nice. My children's ages are 5yrs, 4yrs and almost 2mth. We have 2girls the youngest and oldest and our boy is the middle. My husband is Ron and I am Tammy.We are the Crawford's.
Ellen,
I posted a help request yesterday in a different area. I could not find the "Doughvember" area. Now I can't find where I did the post yesterday. ugh. I'm hoping your staff will be able to find my request and place it in the correct place. We really need help and I don't want to have misplaced our request. I hope I don't sound nuts!
Thank you
Terri Maringer-Seep
Ellen let me just say"thank u" 4 being so darn funny&can make me break a smile&laugh so hard,even when tears are rolling down my face from missing my brother(he's up in heaven thanks to cancer)Oh but one wasn't enough,cause cancer had to go&take my dad to.I do cherish the memories we have together&so very grateful for the time we had together as a family&now I've been blessed with 3 beautiful children of my own,so precious&so much joy&love they've brought into my life,but not being able to be with them every second of everyday is so hard,but thanks to you Ellen you brighten up my day,when I'm feeling sad,or make me burst out with laughter,that I almost pee my pants,so thank you Ellen keep spreading your sunshine&keep spreading the laughter&love. -Brooke
Ellen let me just say"thank u" 4 being so darn funny&can make me break a smile&laugh so hard,even when tears are rolling down my face from missing my brother(he's up in heaven thanks to cancer)Oh but one wasn't enough,cause cancer had to go&take my dad to.I do cherish the memories we have together&so very grateful for the time we had together as a family&now I've been blessed with 3 beautiful children of my own,so precious&so much joy&love they've brought into my life,but not being able to be with them every second of everyday is so hard,but thanks to you Ellen you brighten up my day,when I'm feeling sad,or make me burst out with laughter,that I almost pee my pants,so thank you Ellen keep spreading your sunshine&keep spreading the laughter&love. -Brooke
Ellen let me just say"thank u" 4 being so darn funny&can make me break a smile&laugh so hard,even when tears are rolling down my face from missing my brother(he's up in heaven thanks to cancer)Oh but one wasn't enough,cause cancer had to go&take my dad to.I do cherish the memories we have together&so very grateful for the time we had together as a family&now I've been blessed with 3 beautiful children of my own,so precious&so much joy&love they've brought into my life,but not being able to be with them every second of everyday is so hard,but thanks to you Ellen you brighten up my day,when I'm feeling sad,or make me burst out with laughter,that I almost pee my pants,so thank you Ellen keep spreading your sunshine&keep spreading the laughter&love. -Brooke
Ellen let me just say"thank u" 4 being so darn funny&can make me break a smile&laugh so hard,even when tears are rolling down my face from missing my brother(he's up in heaven thanks to cancer)Oh but one wasn't enough,cause cancer had to go&take my dad to.I do cherish the memories we have together&so very grateful for the time we had together as a family&now I've been blessed with 3 beautiful children of my own,so precious&so much joy&love they've brought into my life,but not being able to be with them every second of everyday is so hard,but thanks to you Ellen you brighten up my day,when I'm feeling sad,or make me burst out with laughter,that I almost pee my pants,so thank you Ellen keep spreading your sunshine&keep spreading the laughter&love. -Brooke
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Dear Ellen,
I am writing to you to ask if there would be a way to help a friend of ours... Robin is having such a hard time after the death of that man that was and still is her heart..Lee..Robin and Lee were to be married and three days before the wedding, Lee had a heart attack and passed away,so instead of Robin marrying The LOVE OF HER LIFE,she had to change all plans for her wedding day and turn a celebration to a funeral. There has been a lot of fuding with Lee's brother and he is going after everything that he can..Robin doesn'thave any money to buy her daughter Ashley a gift for christmas or to even pay her bills and if it hasn't been for her sisters and our group of friends,I don't know where she would be at mentaly..The love those two had is what we all wish for and hope to find, but his family just will not give them time to heal. Robin has wasted away to nothing and Ashley is a young girl that just lost the man that treated her as his own..IS THERE ANYTHING THAT YOU CAN DO TO MAKE THIS CHRISTMAS WITHOUT LEE, A LITTLE BIT EASIER FOR ROBIN AND ASHLEY.....THEY ARE 2 OF A KIND AND ARE SOOOOO LOVED BY US ALL......PLEASE HELP THEM...THANK YOU
Posted by Tonya | December 10, 2009 2:27 PM