Hey Ellen hope your summers going great.I got to see the idols in concert,Carly Smithson was amazing.Saw her interview and sing with Micheal JOhns on your show. I hope that when Carly releases her new CD that you will have her back on.She is an amazing singer and deserves a second chance.Would love to be there.Can`t wait til your new show comes on. Thankyou Nancy

Hi Ellen:
So, how is the day going? Just reading thru all of the posted emails to you must take your assistants away from you......and your left with everything else. Really, the show is wonderful but I couldn't help wonder if you do have a chance to read thru all posted notes so, just to help you out I decided to pick highlights from what I read :0)
1.patricia rodriguez hello ellen, just wanted to let you know your awesome.
2.Siena de la Croix: Ellen, she wrote a "book" to you but I don't know the language..you will have to read this one.
3.Chantelle: she would like to have your show in Toronto. Can you do that for her and other fans?
4. Lynda Heckendorn: Another Canada fan along with her kids. Can you have a show there?
5.Jacquelyne Gray: Please go to www.parispolice.org and you can follow the link at the bottom of the page beneath Wesley's picture for complete information on Wesley's Place. Your time and consideration is so very much greatly appreciated.
6.Jeremiah Medina : she'd like to see Tina Turner on your show
Well, those are some of the highlights - as for me, I really really would love to have those tickets to your show. I've promised my daughters and my daughter-in-law that I would try for a girls trip. Maybe just maybe.....thanks Ellen and have a great day!
Nancy

I would like for you to know how much I really really enjoy watching you and your show. You bring so many people so much joy and what you do to personally help others in need I'm very greatful to see the smles and the way you help turn a persons life around. like what you are doing for the Katrina victoms,as well as so many lifes that you have touches just being you.Thank You Latrice

hello ellen, just wanted to let you know your awesome. as for this person who doesn't even put his real name instead uses donald duck and his rude comments and questions he keeps asking on your web site, he needs to get a life. stay the way you are ellen your fans like you like that.

La Storia di Siena de la Croix, un altro caso di Eterofobia

LA MIA STORIA - di Siena de la Croix

Come persona che ha personalmente lottato con il lesbismo, sono completamente a conoscenza dell'infelicità, della confusione e della miseria che può portare nella vita di qualcuno.
C'è chi direbbe che l'unico modo per le persone orientate all'omosessualità di trovare della vera pace o felicità nella vita è semplicemente di accettare la loro omosessualità, immergersi completamente in una terapia Gay-Affermativa e alla fine, fare "coming out". La mia esperienza, invece, ha provato che quest'idea è falsa. Sono stata sottoposta a terapia riparativa e l'ho trovata estremamente effettiva nel portarmi non solo un tremendo senso di benessere e guarigione nella mia lotta, ma anche un profondo senso di pace e felicità che non avevo mai provato prima.
I miglioramenti che ho provato sono stati così grandi infatti che sono diventata fortemente motivata nel fare ciò che posso per cambiare l'opinione di quelle persone che si oppongono aggressivamente a questo tipo di terapia.
Ma dove si può iniziare una cosa del genere? Dov'è che qualcuno può far sentire la propria voce e parlare della propria esperienza - ed infine avere qualche tipo di influenza su come l'omosessualità viene vista e trattata?
Ho deciso di inziare condividendo, in una lettera, la mia visione riguardo la Terapia Riparativa con l'APA. Ad oggi,non ho mai ricevuto neppure il più piccolo segno che l'APA abbia ricevuto la mia lettera.
Successivamente, decisi di iniziare una missione personale per provare a raggiungere in qualche modo Ellen DeGeneres e provare, con la mia propria testimonianza, di aprire la sua mende alla possibilità che trattamenti alternativi come la Terapia Riparativa possano essere buoni ed effettivi, e susseguentemente, avere un posto valido.
Il Coming Out di Ellen nel 1997 ed il suo susseguente sponsorizzare e promuovere la terapia Gay-Affermativa come la sola salutare ed accettabile, ha profondamente influenzato la vita di molte persone orientate all'omosessualità e non sono negli USA ma in tutto il mondo. La testimonianza pubblica di Ellen ha dato così tanta forza al movimento gay e la sua spinta politica ha permesso che l'APA bandisse la Terapia Riparativa e riconoscesse come salutare solntanto la Terapia Gay-Affermativa.
Ho provato a raggiungere Ellen all'inizio dell'anno scrivendole la mia storia sulla vita e l'esperienza omosessuale, oltre alle terapie che avevo seguito. Speravo che, nella remota possibilità che ricevesse e leggesse la mia lettera (tra le migliaia che riceve), potesse almeno entrare in una sorta di dialogo con me. Senza sorpresa, non ho avuto alcuna risposta a quella lettera.
Quindi ho deciso di provare a raggiungere Ellen postando una breve lettera sul forum pubblico sul sito del suo show. Ecco una copia del post:

Cara Ellen,
Penso tu sia una persona incredibilmente divertente, talentuosa e attenta alle necessità delle persone, amo il tuo humor e penso che tu sia molto genuina, ed è perché mi interessa davvero tanto la tua opinione che vorrei condividere alcuni pensieri con te su qualcosa che è molto importante per entrambe e sul quale mi piacerebbe tu pensassi.
Da quando avevo 18 anni, ho sentito attrazione omosessuale e sono stata in diverse relazioni omosessuali. Comunque, dopo molta ricerca e studio sul soggetto, e dopo molto tempo passato a fare un onesto esame di coscienza, sono giunta alla conclusione che l'omosessualità non è normale, naturale e salutare.
Solo da un punto di vista totalmente biologico, è chiaro per me che i nostri copri non siano stati progettati naturalmente per avere sesso con persone dello stesso sesso. Intendo, se fossimo stati fatti per fare sesso con persone dello stesso sesso, avremmo un modo per poterci soddisfare reciprocamente in modo naturale. Cosa che invece può essere ottenuta solo artificialmente, uomini e donne omosessuali devono usare delle "cose" che chiunque potrebbe dire non siano state progettate per il rapporto sessuale (l'ano, la bocca, vibratori, mani, oggetti, scusami per essere così esplicita ma bisogna essere davvero onesti qui e confrontarsi con la realtà delle cose e non glissare sulla verità).
Il fatto è, il progetto naturale dei nostri corpi rivela chiaramente i loro veri scopi e
funzionalità e quando compiamo atti omosessuali non li usiamo nel modo in cui sono stati naturalmente progettati per funzionare. Al contrario li usiamo in modo innaturale e per questo non può essere considerato né salutare né normale.
Qualsiasi cosa fatta contro natura non può essere né giusta né salutare. Possiamo inizialmente pensare che possiamo "farla franca" facendo cose contro natura e che è OK, ma come tutto il resto in natura, quando viene abusato, ignorato o non rispettato, ci saranno sempre conseguenze negative da pagare.
Io so che dirai che se non è "naturale", cosa porta la gente ad essere attratta da persone dello stesso sesso? Da tutte le mie ricerche e i miei studi (e ne ho fatti tanti), sono ora totalmente convinta che è attualmente un disordine psicologico ed emotivo causato primariamente da esperienze o influenze di adolescenza o infanzia e dalle nostre reazioni inconscie a tali influenze (dalle quali sono largamente dipendenti la nostra personalità e il nostro carattere). E può essere effettivamente trattato o almeno alleviato nelle persone che hanno bisogno di ottenere aiuto.
Sono stata sotto terapia per diverso tempo per aiutarmi a riparare il danno emotivo che ho ricevuto nei miei primi anni di sviluppo, che penso abbia causato la maggior parte dei miei problemi di attrazione omosessuale, e posso onestamente affermare che la terapia è stata funzionante. Finalmente mi sento viva per la prima volta in vita mia. Nellos tesso tempo, sto scoprendo quel che credo essere la vera me stessa, finalmente. Ecco, la persona che avrei sempre dovuto essere.
In altre parole, sto lentamente diventando dentro la persona che riflette la persona fisica che ero fuori. Per metterla in altre parole, la mia identità sessuale interna si sta lentamente allineando con il genere o identità sessuale con cui sono nata. I due stanno diventando meno in conflitto tra di loro e lentamente mi sto riallineando per diventare una donna, dentro e fuori. E, ancora più incredibile, sto sentendo i miei bisogni omosessuali diminuire e l'attrazione eterosessuale si sta iniziando a sviluppare in me!
Questo è stato così liberatorio per me e mi ha dato un così grande senso di pace con me stessa, tale che non ne avevo mai conosciuti. Non vuol dire che sia stato facile, c'è un discreto ammontare di "chirurgia emotiva" da fare per arrivare a questo punto (ed ancora molto ne dovrò fare) e ci vuole molto coraggio, determinazione e forza di volontà per passarci, ma alla fine credo che valga davvero la pena per quello che ti dà alla fine.
Io raccomando che la consideri, potrai credere che tu abbia avuto alcuni grandi momenti nella tua vita fin qui, ma fidati di me, se apri davvero al tua mente a quello che dico e scegli di seguire il mio consiglio, il meglio deve ancora venire!

Naturalmente, postando quel commento, non avevo idea se sarebbe mai passato sul monitor di Ellen e nelle sue mani, ma qualsiasi fosse il caso, ecco cosa è successo. Entro 24 ore dal momento in cui ho postato il commento, non solo questo ero stato rimosso ma io ero stata bannata dal sito e non avrei mai più potuto postare.
Tutte le volte che provai a postare qualcos'altro, appariva una pagina con la frase "Non hai il permesso di postare qui"!
Alla faccia della libertà di espressione, pensai! Dov'era la tolleranza e l'accettazione dei punti di vista di altre persone? Perché Ellen può parlare della sua esperienza personale sull'omosessualità ma io non posso parlare della mia personale esperienza sullo stesso argomento?
Quindi ripostai il commento sul sito di Ellen con il computer di un'altra persona con alcune domande ulteriori su perché il mio post era stato rimosso ed ancora fui bannata dal sito. Il mio post fu rimosso e fui bannata anche dal secondo computer!
Quattro volte ripostai il commento con le domande che riguardavano il loro comportamento discriminatorio e inollerante, ed ogni volta il mio commento fu rimosso.
Circa una settimana dopo, pensai che avrei potuto provare di vedere se potevo postare di nuovo dal mio computer. Non so perché, ma non c'era più il ban. Così provai a ripostare una versione leggermente editata del mio commento originale. Quando ricontrollai, la mattina dopo, il sito, non solo il mio post era cancellato, ma tutto ciò che chiunque avrebbe potuto postare sul sito era stato rimosso. Tutti i commenti pubblici, i feedback, tutto rimosso.
Perché? Non so, ma anche se tutti i commenti pubblici sul sito di Ellen sono stati rimossi, la mia domanda resta sollevata!
In un modo o nell'altro sono determinata, come persona che ha trovato la Terapia Riparativa immensamente d'aiuto, nel trovare un modo di dirlo in questo importante dibattimento pubblico. Gli attivisti gay da soli non dovrebbero avere l'ultima parola quando si tratta di decidere cosa è effettivo ed accettabile nel trattamento dell'omosessualità. Quelli di noi che hanno beneficiato della Terapia Riparativa devono essere ascoltati e considerati.
La terapia riparativa ha funzionato per me e nessuno ha il diritto di deligittimare la mia opinione e nessuno che voglia accedervi.

Siena de la Croix

Hey Ellen:

I have watched your show for so long wondering how to get tickets. But you should maybe consider coming to Canada for one, perhaps Toronto, you have so many fans here that would kill to see you. I believe you have the best talk show on t.v. No doubt about it. :)

G'day Ellen,

Three years ago, I graduated from an MBA program and my best friend, who knows me better than anyone, gave me the promise of taking me to see your show as a graduation present. I don't normally hold people to their promises but, like I said, this person knows me better than anyone and seeing your show would be the one thing that I would like to do more than anything else. THE PROBLEM IS, we have been unable to get tickets. Now, I've seen people in the audience and I don't believe that they are cardboard cutouts or even pod people so somehow, someway, all of these individuals have found a way to do something that I just don't know how to do. PLEASE tell me the best way to get tickets to your show. You might be asking yourself 'What's in it for me?' Well, I know the secret to the meaning of life. If you want me to share, I'll need to come to LA.

Cheers,
Cindy

Hi Ellen,
Would you come to Canada to do your show? It would be great to see you here...maybe in the beautiful city of Quebec who knows! I am learning English by watching you on tv. I am moving to Quebec city to go to University in....teaching English as a second language so I'll keep on watching you!!

Thank you for making us laughing!
Mary

Hi Ellen I know you have fans all over the world but I would really like to know when you are bringing you, wife and your mama to the Bahamas. Michael told me I should give up but damn it I aint a quittta! You guys would love puttin your toesies in the beautiful aquamarine water!!! When you come you have to give me a shout I can cook for you and your family. You are a wonderful geeyal and I love you and of all the people,even Johnny Depp,though I have met him and he did come to my restuarant and enjoyed himself, he is a sweety by the way, I would love to meet you too!!! Come to da island & become a Bahama mama

Love Always your Bahamian stalker
Jacqueline

Hey Ellen!

I was just reading a message from Lynda Heckendorn and I would so love it if you'd come do a show in Canada!!! That's such an awesome idea...please consider it and I can assure you all the fans in Canada will be there to welcome you with open arms!

Take care,

Sylvie Lepage - Gatineau Canada

Dear Ellen, I sent you a great CD done by a local folk singer named Chuck E. Costa, but I don't know if the CD will ever really get to you. So, if you read this, please go to his website (you can Google Chuck E. Costa) and there's a thing you can click on to see him perform one of his songs.
He's really good, and an exceptionally nice person, so I thought you might love his songs and let him perform on your show. Then you can take the credit for discovering him!
he works on the side at Starbucks, and I work there too, so that's how I know that he is a wonderful person and a very talented singer/song writer.
Thanks for listening, Ellen. I love you and your show. All my women friends love you, too!

Dear Ellen, I know you and your mama have been touched by breast cancer. I was a month away from my five year clean mark when I discovered a slight pink haze across my opposite breast. I went to the internet to look up my symtoms. Then I went to the doctor five weeks ago and she thought it was a side effect from my recent shoulder surgery. I asked if this could be inflammatory breast cancer. Having just had a clean bill of health two months earlier, she still thought it was a reaction from my recent shoulder surgery, I went back a few weeks later and she told me the same thing. Knowing my concern she did an ultra sound, (which really didn't show anything) To make me feel better she did a punch biopsy of the area. She was so possitive that it was nothing, she said, "If this shows anything I'll stop practicing medicine." The next day when I got home in the afternoon there was a message to call her. The test was positve it was cancer. That was Friday, the following Monday she said it was inflammatory breast cancer, just as I thought. It's very agressive and mostly fatal. In a few hours I start chemo and hopefully will make it to surgery. Then chemo again and radiation. Thank god for the internet! My point please let people know about this breast cancer that is missed because because most of the time it only shows up by biopsy. regards to you and your mama....ginger

I hope you are having fun and relaxing this summer. You deserve it. I was thinking about your marriage with Portia and thought of a local singer who is absolutely fabulous (beyond fabulous) anyway, she wrote and sang a wedding song that is lovely. I read about her in the San Francisco Chronicle and checked out her web site. Her songs are unusual and her voice is like an angel. I think she would be incredible on your show. I believe she is a new artist and writes everything herself. Her name is Larkin Gayl and her site is Larkingayl.com. Check out the utube with the heart...it's the best.
Keep doing what you do. I love it!!!!!!!!! judy

Dear Elen
My name is Jacquelyne Gray. I am a registered nurse. I am writing to you about the brutal murder of a child and the community trying to preserve his memory. Though it may sound biased, I believe that I am married to a man with the most pure and giving heart, he is Tim Gray, and is the Chief of Police in the small community of Paris, Kentucky where we live. I am writing to you on his behalf and the behalf of our citizens who are attempting to take a horrible tragedy and bring something good from it.On the evening of August 4th, 2007, my husband and I were attending our nephews wedding several hours from our hometown, when my husband received a call from the police dept that the body of a six year old boy, who had been reported as missing earlier in the day, had been found brutally murdered in the back of the garage at his grandfather's residence where he had been staying the weekend. My husband and I immediately left our nephews celebration to respond to the crime scene. When we arrived on the scene and went into the garage, the horror that met our eyes words cannot adequately describe. Laying at our feet was the lifeless body of a beautiful 6 year old boy, Wesley Dylan Mullins. He had been brutally murdered and because the man arrested for the crime is incarcerated, still awaiting trial, I won't go into detail in this letter about the specifics of the brutality, I will say that sexual abuse was involved. Although my husband had been a police officer for nearly 15 years, he had not been chief for even a year yet, and everyone expected him to turn this case over to our State police force for investigation. But he didn't. Our community had never experienced this type of evil. My husband as a police officer had witnessed many injustices during his career, but nothing of this heart wrenching magnitude. So, he brought our police dept together and rallied our community and they worked day and night, lived and breathed Wesley's death until the right person was arrested and indicted for the crime. That person was Louis "Buck" Ballard, a man who had been renting a room from Wesley's grandfather, who Wesley saw as a friend, someone he could trust, a man who had an extensive criminal background of sexual abuse and assault. Our community first fell apart. "How could something like this happen here, where everyone knows everyone?" But as our community mourned the death of this sweet innocent child, Wesley came to belong to all of us, and the need to keep his memory alive and to hopefully prevent another tragedy like this from ever happening again, became the new focus through a new project called Wesley's Place. An anonymous "Angel" purchased the property where the crime occured and three other neighboring properties and donated them for the building site. They have since been demolished and in that very spot where this horrible crime took place is the dream to build Wesley's Place, a building that will provide office space for non-profit organizations providing education and support for the prevention of child abuse and to offer family support. Our small community has rallied together to make this dream a reality with numerous fundraisers. Not including the donation of the property, we have raised over a 100,000 dollars toward this project in money and donated materials, with an estimated need of 200,000 dollars to see the project complete. This is a true story of a community coming together to try and make the senseless death of a sweet child stand for something positive, and my husband works night and day in addition to his job and his family to see this dream come to life. He has always rose to the occassion when someone has been in need, he made three trips himself with supplies to help those in need during the disaster of hurricane Katrina. This is small town America trying to make a diiference, and preserve the memory of this child and all children who have sufferd at the hands of abuse. Please help me to help my husband and my community see their dream come true and preserve Wesley's memory by taking an interest in this story and once again bringing the awareness of child abuse and how prominent it is in this country, even in small town America, to the forefront. We just need help getting the word out. It is our deepest hope that Wesley's suffering and death not be in vain. Please go to www.parispolice.org and you can follow the link at the bottom of the page beneath Wesley's picture for complete information on Wesley's Place. Your time and consideration is so very much greatly appreciated. Sincerely, Jacquelyne Gray

My name is Jacquelyne Gray. I am a registered nurse. I am writing to you about the brutal murder of a child and the community trying to preserve his memory. Though it may sound biased, I believe that I am married to a man with the most pure and giving heart, he is Tim Gray, and is the Chief of Police in the small community of Paris, Kentucky where we live. I am writing to you on his behalf and the behalf of our citizens who are attempting to take a horrible tragedy and bring something good from it.On the evening of August 4th, 2007, my husband and I were attending our nephews wedding several hours from our hometown, when my husband received a call from the police dept that the body of a six year old boy, who had been reported as missing earlier in the day, had been found brutally murdered in the back of the garage at his grandfather's residence where he had been staying the weekend. My husband and I immediately left our nephews celebration to respond to the crime scene. When we arrived on the scene and went into the garage, the horror that met our eyes words cannot adequately describe. Laying at our feet was the lifeless body of a beautiful 6 year old boy, Wesley Dylan Mullins. He had been brutally murdered and because the man arrested for the crime is incarcerated, still awaiting trial, I won't go into detail in this letter about the specifics of the brutality, I will say that sexual abuse was involved. Although my husband had been a police officer for nearly 15 years, he had not been chief for even a year yet, and everyone expected him to turn this case over to our State police force for investigation. But he didn't. Our community had never experienced this type of evil. My husband as a police officer had witnessed many injustices during his career, but nothing of this heart wrenching magnitude. So, he brought our police dept together and rallied our community and they worked day and night, lived and breathed Wesley's death until the right person was arrested and indicted for the crime. That person was Louis "Buck" Ballard, a man who had been renting a room from Wesley's grandfather, who Wesley saw as a friend, someone he could trust, a man who had an extensive criminal background of sexual abuse and assault. Our community first fell apart. "How could something like this happen here, where everyone knows everyone?" But as our community mourned the death of this sweet innocent child, Wesley came to belong to all of us, and the need to keep his memory alive and to hopefully prevent another tragedy like this from ever happening again, became the new focus through a new project called Wesley's Place. An anonymous "Angel" purchased the property where the crime occured and three other neighboring properties and donated them for the building site. They have since been demolished and in that very spot where this horrible crime took place is the dream to build Wesley's Place, a building that will provide office space for non-profit organizations providing education and support for the prevention of child abuse and to offer family support. Our small community has rallied together to make this dream a reality with numerous fundraisers. Not including the donation of the property, we have raised over a 100,000 dollars toward this project in money and donated materials, with an estimated need of 200,000 dollars to see the project complete. This is a true story of a community coming together to try and make the senseless death of a sweet child stand for something positive, and my husband works night and day in addition to his job and his family to see this dream come to life. He has always rose to the occassion when someone has been in need, he made three trips himself with supplies to help those in need during the disaster of hurricane Katrina. This is small town America trying to make a diiference, and preserve the memory of this child and all children who have sufferd at the hands of abuse. Please help me to help my husband and my community see their dream come true and preserve Wesley's memory by taking an interest in this story and once again bringing the awareness of child abuse and how prominent it is in this country, even in small town America, to the forefront. We just need help getting the word out. It is our deepest hope that Wesley's suffering and death not be in vain. Please go to www.parispolice.org and you can follow the link at the bottom of the page beneath Wesley's picture for complete information on Wesley's Place. Your time and consideration is so very much greatly appreciated. Sincerely, Jacquelyne Gray

Ellen:

Would you ever come to Canada to do a show, especially London, Ontario?

We were at the cottage on holidays and the kids woke up early just to watch your show.

You are a very kind and compassionate person Ellen.

All the best with your upcoming wedding.

Take care.

Fan from CANADA!

Lynda

Hey Ellen,

I know you get told everyday that someone is your biggest fan, but I really am your biggest fan from Australia. I really want you to come do a show in Sydney because its only 2 hours from my hometown coz then I can come and see you because im only 14 and i havent got enough money and I have to go to school but i really want to go over to America when I finish school because I want to go to Gracelands in Memphis and coz I wanna come to your show!
I hope you come down under and visit me and all your other Aussie Fans!!!

CoReY

Hi Im Jeremiah Medina From San Luis Colorado Its a Really Small town with a population of like 400 yeah it small but anyway i always watch your show and ive never seen Tina Turner on it. It would be really kool to see her perform or go on your show

ellen hi just a note to say hi and to tell you how much i love your show. i use to get your newsletters but now i do not i do not know way. please send a list of your books as i have one and i would like to get the rest of your books. love maggie

Olá Ellen!!
Primeiramente quero pedir desculpa a você por não está escrevendo em inglês, mas é que meu inglês é muito fraco, eu sei falar poucas coisas e não entendo muito também...
Quero dizer a você que amo seu programa e acho você super divertida. não sei que horas o seu programa passa aí, mas aqui no brasil na minha cidade passa à tarde e definitivamente você alegra a minha tarde, muito obrigada por isso!
beijo de maior fã brasileira!!
by: Fabiola