My Thought...And I Do Have One

BEATING OURSELVES UP

I did something embarrassing the other day. I would tell you what it is, but it’s too embarrassing. Usually when we do stupid things, other people don’t care about the thing we did as much as we do. I still have a horrible feeling in my chest. I’ve been beating myself up… which is much easier than congratulating yourself. We need to be good to ourselves and focus on the positive things instead of beating ourselves up. We need to train ourselves to be more self-congratulating for the little things. “Bravo! That was a wonderful left turn you just made!” Or, “You cut your own chicken today! Well done!”

We don’t remember the times that we did things right but we’ll never forget the, “It’s nice to meet you mistake.” That’s when you’re introduced to someone and you say, “Nice to meet you.” And they say, “We were roommates in college!” Of course, it’s really important to notice when you do something dumb. A little embarrassment is the best way of keeping dumb things from happening over and over again. Embarrassment is a part of nature. Living things have been embarrassed throughout time. I’m sure that over the last billion years, many an amoeba has mistakenly said to another amoeba, “Nice to meet you.” And the other amoeba says, “Nice to meet you? We used to be the came cell! I split apart from you last week!”

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I really needed this one today! What I did was really embarrassing, but it also made me feel incompetent. That was the worst part. It happened on May 9 and I am still "stinging" from it. I have tried to forget it, correct it and then let it go, but it is not working. After reading your comments, Ellen, I am convinced that I can let it go! Thank you! I love your sense of humour!!!!

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Oh,tell us what u did!! I am sooo curious now,it's driving me nuts!! Well,I'm already a little nuts...........but TELL US!!!

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Oh Ellen! You have sent me to the edge! I have tried for years to not be creeped out by massages or spa treatments. While friends go on and on about how great they feel after going to the spa, I have visions of jiggely body parts, tortureous and embarrassing moments, and just plain panic over subjecting strangers to veiw this less than perfect 50 something body! I broke out in a sweat watching you trick these women while having spa treatments. How could they take it so calmly? I swear they took it like it was just another new FUN thing at the spa!It was funny to watch but you definetly added to my spa phobia!

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I adore u Ellen, anyway......one of my embarassing moments was when my ex-husband (alcoholic)came into the liquer store I was working in and started talking to me as if I was interested in anything he had to say!!! Right in front of my co-workers, he had the nerve to tell me my other ex-husband was looking real bad!!!!!!

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I adore u Ellen, anyway......one of my embarassing moments was when my ex-husband (alcoholic)came into the liquer store I was working in and started talking to me as if I was interested in anything he had to say!!! Right in front of my co-workers, he had the nerve to tell me my other ex-husband was looking real bad!!!!!!

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yea reminds me of wen i got out of jail and i met my cell mate at d grocery store and couldn't remember her(lol)...embarrassment is just part of us, i mean once u get it smacked in u,u neva 4get, esp pple's names or birthdays(tho i forget later)

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Most "embarassing": I stole a pen from my first cousin...John's...desk. Uncounsciousness was ME. Greed, lust, wanting, needing more.. It was automatic and wrong. After I had the "plastic" pen at home, feelings of great remorse and embarassment haunted me. Not only did I feel just awful, but I realized that John's home is fully equipped with cameras. The lessons I am given are invaluable. I still have not said anything to John, nor him to me.

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My embarrassing five minutes was when I had gone to a lake with my then g/f, her sister, her parents, aunt and uncle, two cousins and my sister and her b/f and I got up on one ski for he first time and gave the thumbs up to go faster and crashed and burned on a wake. When I got back on the ski again we went around the lake and everyone on the shore was waving and yelling and you guessed it by the time that we got back to the dock I realized that I only had on the life vest and the waving wasn't because I was great at water skiing, it was that I was naked from the waist down

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hahas. You never fail to bring a smile or a laugh out of me with your every post! =]

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I turned 50 last year and swear my memory has suffered the most. I'm trying to get the name of a punk rock band you had on a while back. They were older and it was an old song they played. I wrote all the info down and now can't find it or remember it. The song had some lyrics, I"ll give you everything, everything everything, I'll give you diamonds, $100 bills." Sound familiar? Can you get me the bands name and the song? I LOVED IT!!!!!!!!! LOVE YOU ELLEN and ALL you do!!!!!

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Hallo it is me again
embarrassing moments I just did it is not do you have time but have you time and when I though there is something wrong I click on post

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Embarrassing moments do you have time Ellen Lady??

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Your presentation of two women trying to find something in a pizza was revolting and it was very humilating to the women. Please try to be more humane in the futute.

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I recently experienced the opposite of the "nice to meet you mistake". I was hanging out with friends in a campus cafe, and saw a former classmate. I said 'hi' and introduced her to my friends, except I had obviously gone temporarily insane b/c I didn't introduce ehr as an acquaintance from a class, I introduced her as my (current) university suitemate! How embarassing is that?? Granted, I have always thought that they look alike, but STILL, she must have been so confused. the best part is that she never said anything...and I didn't realize my mistake until that night when my (real) suitemate complimented me on a new haircut, and I commented that she had already seen it earlier that day...and she was like: "I haven't seen you at all today". I still feel sick to my stomach thinking of this MAJOR faux pas.

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I was trying to think of an embarrassing story to tell, about with reference to me..However, I got a mind block. So, I have just search the internet and found this one. I don't know who wrote it, but it was signed ANON..

It was the day before my eighteenth birthday. I was living at home, but my parents had gone out for the evening, so I invited my girlfriend over for a romantic night alone. As we lay in bed after making love, we heard the telephone ring downstairs. I suggested to my girlfriend that I give her a piggyback ride to the phone. Since we didn't want to miss the call, we didn't have time to get dressed. When we got to the bottom of the stairs, the lights suddenly came on and a whole crowd of people yelled, 'SURPRISE!' My entire family aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins and all my friends were standing there! My girlfriend and I were frozen in a state of shock and embarrassment for what seemed like an eternity. Since then, no one in my family has planned a surprise party again.

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