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Tuesday, January 15, 2008 • 1:55 PM • 
Celebrity Rehab Polls RT @TheEllenShow
Ellen,
I am a person with a few mental disorders and I am also a recovering drug addict. In 2003 I was introduced to heroin and cocaine. I was so depressed and had such low self-esteem that I honestly thought all I deserved was drugs. My behavior was a lot like that of Brittany. So erratic that I didn't even know if I was coming or going. I got lucky and my family went to court and got temporary custody of my kids and I had lost everything at that point. No apartment , no car and now no kids. I went to a great rehab and then put myself into a hal-way-home because I wasn't secure with my own decision making. I felt I needed more than just rehab. I needed to learn how to cope with everyday life. I didn't know how to handle anger or happiness. Things that people take for granted I couldn't do. The home was for people with dual diagnosis (drugs and mental). There I went through DBT classes and was given so many tools that help me learn how to deal with these issues. It is not an easy situation to be in. But I can tell you from personal experience that it has to be when she is ready not when everyone else is ready. I was ready. It was six months after my family took my children that I decided that if I didn't do something now they would be seeing me again at my funeral!!!!! My kids do not deserve that. I love them with all my heart. I'm now off my meds for my bi-polar, OCD and PTSD. I have been clean for 4years. I only hope that she finds her way before it's too late. I know that feeling of hopelessness when your kids are gone but if she ever wants them back she needs to stop being selfish. That's what I was. I only thought of me and no one else.
Thanx,
Dawna
I have a brother who unfortunatley suffers from a mental illness (schitzophrenia). Ms. Spears behavior are too familliar to me. There are alot of people who will exploit her illness and her because they know she is so vulnerable. I believe her first husband may fir into this catergory. If there is aperson in het life left that really does want to help her they neeed to step up to the plate now, which is very difficult thing to do, but she will copletely self destruct soon with no turning back if you don't intervene.If you are a family memeber HELP HER for goodness sake and hey press people quit being the nasty exploiters that you are and leave this poor woman alone.
yes britney should loose her kids for now for there saftey . britney has major issues .till she gets help the boys should be in a safe place. britney is awesome singer and person. but she needs help . why doesn't someone help her?and the paparazzi need to leave her alone along with new jerk.
i wish her and her sister the best,
I have a question more than a comment? Why has the judge not asked for live in help? (or has he) I have worked in the feild of family support for a long time. Offering full/part time support in the home while the parent maintains and participates in the daily life of their children can be a way of encouaging wellness. I am not a big fan of causing emotional distress to someone who is struggling already. By offering temporary custody to a person who offers in home support is a very good option. It can help with parenting skills, life skills and so much more, if it is the right person, who is a loving posative well trained person. When someone is preoccupied with emotional distress true growth is much more difficult. In my experience if you can encouage someone in a positive way the healing is forever. Not just to behave in a way that satisfys other people, so that you can stop the trauma to everyone involved. People will eventually do as they are told if they suffer long enough, but that never lasts for very long. Love growes beautiful things, pain and hate destroy.
Hi Ellen,
Have you ever thought of contacting Brittney and giving her some words of encouragement? Just wondered. I have Bipolar Disorder and Borderline Disorder which they press say Brittney may have and for once in my life, I to agree with them. She had the same symptoms I had when I was manic with my bipolar and she won't get help unless someone does an intervention. Thats what happened to me. I finally gave in and went to a hospital for 7 weeks. I actually was in and out of the hospital several times for a few years until my suicide attempt that almost killed me last year. Thats when I knew I hit rock bottom and entered another hospital for 30 days, which helped a lot. (After I recovered 3 months in the hospital from the suicide attempt - they said I wouldn't live and when I heard all my friends came to say goodbye while I was in my coma, thats when I finally knew it was time for me to get help). With Borderline Personality Disorder, you feel insecure and that people may leave you due to a traumatic childhood which to me, Brittney was just thrown into this Hollywood business too young and had a lot of pressure on her to do so well. anyway, the parents need to do an intervention, her family, close friends and they could actually get it court ordered for her to go. It sucks having to do it that way, but it happened to me. I didn't want to go, but when I got there I realized it was an act of love, not revenge or anything. and I really came through and learned a lot and started going to support groups for both disorders. Brittney is manic and she will use that paparazzi to make herself feel grandious and want all of this attention that she feels she isn't getting from anyone else. I mean if you look at it, she seems all alone and honestly I know what she is going through and I just wish I had an opportunity to talk to her to show her its going to be okay... just got to want to do it and do it and hang tough. The family needs to show tough love, with both of the Spears Sisters. Well thats my 2 cents.
Love ya Ellen!
ELLEN!
I don't like the pop-R- Atzi. If I was a star and I knew they provided a little bread and butter for me.. and its nice to get noiticed... but they took it too far like they are with Britany where my personal freedom and SAFETY were being jeopardized... I'd get PISSED TOO.
I get angry like... lets shove a camera up the pop-R-Atzi's face and follow them 24/7 and see how they like.
A couple of stars recently have stepped up their mark and called the pops on their intrusive behavior and I think its about time.
Their should be some law set in place to protect like I was thinking the other night. only so many hours of shots a month....and if they go over... attorneys get involved and they pay the star for the photo... and it would costs twice as much as it would for the shot originally!.. then they'd stop!
ELLEN!!!
I think a lot of Britany Spears problems are emotional... someone love me. She's been searching for love her whole life. Her kids were her love, Kevin was her love and it all failed... left her. Even when she had all that she had a drug problem...again trying to find love... no matter how much she thought she could be happy and then sadly not she resorted to self sabatage 'cause too much... abusing anything... becomes addictive and then you lose site...lose yourself... and digging yourself deeper and then you lose. Even when she had love that she wants desperartely... she lost it ... 'cause she made bad choices... clubbing... taking no grown up responsibility and I think her inner circle is just as guilty 'cause Britany is wounded and no one is helping. The pops are throwing salt on the wound and the consumers demand it and its all snowballing out of control. In my eyes I think she needs detox and spirituality not sexual favors from adnon who in my mind is just feuling the fire and slow destruction of a very talented mugician.
I see Britany ... I hope.. coming out of this pit she's in and getting the help she needs... not adnon help.. he's not helping... detox help and pull herself away from the situation. Her kids will be ok. What they really need is a mommy that is better and has love to give... right now its more of a codependent love and the kids can't give Britany what she needs. She needs to find herself.. grow strong spritually, emotionally, mentally... and show herself most importantly that she can derive inner love.. self love and be healthy and that can make a difference in society that I know she can.
I hope the best for Britany. I know she can do it... if she sets her mind to it.
I'd like to see Britany do more music and rise to greater musical heights that I know is in her... not what I see now... which is really sad to watch.
Ellen I feel for Brittany Spears to live in the spotlight like that would be extremely difficult. She is so young and vulnerable. I don't think she should permantly loose custody of her children, but I do not think she should have them during this hard time in her life. She needs to get out of the spotlight and do some real soul searching, before she ends up being another Hollywood statistic.
ellen,
hi my name is stacey. i'm 23 yrs. old & i live in michigan. i hope your the one that gets this message or someone reads it & they tell you about it. my mom & me watch your show maybe not everyday but we watch it quite a bit now. you seem like i pretty cool person real laid back. i like that. you seem sincere towards people. even though i dont know you fully i only know you by TV or some movies you played in. you seem like you can be alot of fun to hang out with. well the reason why im writing is cause im worried about britney spears. im not trying to be famous & be on tv or anything like that i just want to try & reach out to her by either emailing her or writing her. i know i cant get her address address or anything like that i just want maybe an email or an address that i can get a hold of her at just to write her so i can maybe encourage her or something. my mom & me have been praying for her. we are born again christians. one day i was sitting back thinking to myself thinking celebrities need prayer as well as people like us so i told my mom that my mom agreed. so we try to pray more for celebrities & even you. cause yea id like to have money & sometimes would wonder what itd be like to be in the spotlight, but then i think to myself i rather have a peace of mind. i dont know what you guys go through constantly being judge & put in magazines or the news or whatever. you guys should all get together & try to fight back against the paparazzi cause i think there should be a limit to what they do cause if you think about it they are harassing you guys. you guys should only put up with so much. you guys deserve your privacy. anyways the main reason why im writing cause if you could somehow give me something where i can write britney cause i want to try to write something to encourage her. cause even though i dont agree with everything shes done but my mom always taught me u dont know why people do the things you do. that is soo true. so whoever says britney is luney is wrong cause you dont know what that poor girl goes through. just cause kevin looks like the good guy right now who knows what he put her through or anything else that she went through. i never been in the mental hospital but i do know people who has been in there doesnt make them crazy some people are just misunderstood. plus shes on drugs so that alot of it as well so to end this if u could find away with me getting ahold of her id appreciate it or maybe relay a message i dont care how she gets the message. let her know were praying for her that God understands & he loves her no matter what shes done. He can change her. he has a plan for her. just like he has a plan for you. cause you guys need to be encouraged as well. wow this is a long message. thank you ellen you remember God loves you too.
stacey
I think that she just took a wrong turn and needs someone to step up to the plate take her away from all the fans and photographers.
She should go into seclusion and fix herself up.
I am not a Britney Fan...but I am a fan of HUMAN RIGHTS....Ellen said it right, we can all point and stare and tell her she should be shamed, but the truth is, someone REALLY needs to care and HELP HER...if not for the sake of one of pop music's BIGGEST idols (like her or not), then for her children.
After the scene in front of the court with the paparazzi swarming all over her, I think the law has got to be changed so that the photogs have to stay across the street, no in the street, fully across the street from stars. They are putting stars in danger of being hurt by the pushing and shoving and cameras being shoved in their faces, it is horrifying to watch. No wonder this young girl is so crazy who wouldn't be having to endure that every minute of their life. This is anothr Princess Diana death venture waiting to happen. I am not a Britney fan but this is just wrong for anyone to have to endure. She needs to get Psychological help and see her children with supervision in their permanent home with Kevin present to. I hate to say it but I have never seen her little boys with a smile on their faces.
If it where not for the paparazzi and media swarming around her for 10 years straight maybe she would not be so messed up. She unfotunatly lost her children because the media would not let their pop Princess grow up. let her go into to rehab and have visitation with her children while she gets her head back on.I wish the best for her and her children. She does not know who she is or who she is suppose to be. So just let her BE.
The whole hollywood scene is vapid and evil. Speculating, hyping fools abound. Healthy men sit and live off women while women fight their wars for them. This is the fruit of that. Mamma Nature is about to wipe the state off the map anyway. Perhaps what remains of this country can do better.
P.S. I do not think Britany should her kids. Her money she should lose. He he he ha! Than she will wake up....
About Britney, when I heard Ivanka say her dad would kick her butt, but worst her Mom is Eastern euro that explains it all. My Dad when I was 16 and a senior in High school almost, no, well he did hit me for holding hands with a boy. I was quite embarrassed. It is called morals! Moderation
Ellen, First I love you! Watch you every day at 11 A.M. in NY. You said Jennifer Love is not fat. She IS NOT!! Too thin your bones will suffer. Women should know this. I am 5,5 100 pounds and can not seem to eat enough! If I hear one more diet commercial or diet E-mail I will post ads with women with bone problems. I was about 36,25, 35.. After a major surgury 2 years ago, I am 36,25, 31. Not so pretty. Body looks like a 14year old boy. Find me pills or center to gain weight pleeessse! Weight gainers.com? My birthday is Dec. 26, yours is Jan. 26. I am your elder, so you have to tell women about a bone is for a dog, not an adult. LOVE YOU ATATATYA!!!
I don't think what is happening to Britney is as complicated as the media would like it to be. I beleive she is just a person reacting to her life as we all do. Does she have a mental illness? Maybe she does? If she does, that would mean erratic behavior beyond her controll. Is that her fault? Would she be the first to stuggle with that reality? Or perhaps it is a secret that could hurt someone she loves. That would also look like this. Emotions are a powerfull thing and can cause people to react, it is not always manipulation, rather a reflex. It takes maturity to understand who you are as a person and to use that understanding of who you are to create a platform of intention. That intention develops into selfcontroll which guides you in your choices. These choices create actions and we all know you are the sum of your actions. Britney while being an adult has not fully matured just because maturity takes more time than she has had.
I would like to see Britney get to know herself.
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britney should not lose custody of her kids. the poor girl has been in the spotlight her whole life with no real friends, no real childhood, she didnt even get to grow up like the rest of us. she grew up with the entire world watching. Now that britney has all of this pressure, im sure it has built up over time and she just lost it for a little while. we have all lost our cool. now that britney is trying to get better, got rid of the bad people in her life and is having family time, i think she should have time with her children. i love britney and im so glad to see her getting better.
Posted by patty scruci | February 19, 2008 9:06 PM